Don’t say “I Believe Women” but do nothing about the people terrorizing them

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In the spring of 2016, during my first month as a full-time staff member of Citizen Action of New York, I traveled up to Albany for a lobby day. Before I shifted to politics, I was the team’s Communications Associate. On that day, my job was to amplify member stories on social media and introduce myself to the Legislative Correspondents Association (LCA). The people at the LCA were friendly but not very interested in getting to know a temp communications associate when budget negotiations were taking place…


It’s ok to be a sucker for love. It’s not ok to be a monster

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When I started this essay series, I hoped to use my failed relationships and poor decisions as a filter to discuss important issues. Things like consent, rape culture, and entitlement. I was hoping to do it in a way that would encourage men to assess the way they view and engage with women, while also doing a deeper…


Get over yourselves, there isn’t a war against Black men lead by “bitter” Black women

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When I was 15 years old, I went through a streak where no one in my 8th-period science class would sit next to me. Every day, I would enter the classroom and look for my friends; they would smile, say hello, and then immediately shift to the other side of the room. At first, I thought this was just a coincidence, but after a couple of days where people who I considered close friends and even a couple of enemies, were going out of their…


Fella’s, we have got a lot of work to do.

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When I broke the news of losing my virginity, my friends were ecstatic. Everyone was filled with what felt like a combination of joy, and pride for my accomplishment. To celebrate this “life-changing” moment, we decided that everyone would go to the campus party happening later that evening.

The party, as expected was a blast, so we didn’t leave until the very end…


Sometimes the problem is you

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The Girl.

Do you know how every guy says he wants a girl who is “easy to be around?” Well, Desiray was just that. We met a couple of weeks after that time I was accused of kidnapping a white woman. Specifically, at the Borders Bookstore on 34th street (RIP Borders). I was on a serious Eric Jerome Dickey binge (Also RIP) and I guess she was too…


How toxic masculinity ruined summer camp and my friendship

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When I was 10 years old, my parents decided they wanted the summer for themselves. So they did what any self-respecting NYC family with little money would do — they signed me up for day camp. That’s where I met Jose, my first best friend.

Jose was a light-skinned Dominican kid with straight black hair and big eyes; his fingernails were painted black. We met during lunch when he jumped into a heated debate between me and our lead camp counselor, Jayshawn, about who was the strongest Power Ranger. Jayshawn and his crew insisted it was the Green Ranger (Tommy)…


One of the most dangerous things to the movement is ego.

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If you’re like me, you probably spent some time today scrolling through the endless quotes, think pieces, and social media posts honoring the legacy and work of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. I wouldn’t expect anything less on the national holiday we use to celebrate his birth. Dr. King’s contribution to civil rights, anti-war, and economic justice movements have shaped the way many of us view the world. …


The relationship that gave me an education on class solidarity

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Sometimes, the biggest lesson you learn in dating comes from the relationship that didn’t happen. On other occasions, the lesson you learn has nothing to do with relationships and more to do with how you view the world, and how it views you. This next relationship isn’t as much about the girl, then it is about an interesting time in my life, and…


Men can be raped, and they can be raped by women, we should talk about why that seems so taboo.

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Warning: This post discusses sexual assault and rape in detail.

Earlier today while aimlessly scrolling through Twitter, I ran into a tweet that literally stopped me in my tracks. Twitter user, @TrePicasso, opened up as a victim of sexual assault” In an effort to not put words in his mouth, I’ll share a screenshot of the original tweet.

My initial reaction was to roll…


It doesn’t take much to be a decent human being.

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The summer of 2008 was an eventful one. I was entering my junior year of college preparing for my role as the incoming student government president. I signed up to be a resident assistant (R.A) for the months of June, July, and August. Unlike previous summers, this one was set up to be a success for a couple of reasons:

  1. I was only taking…

Stanley Fritz

JET mag beauty of the week finalist circa 2067. Table flipper, writer. Non respectable negro. Racist round house kicker

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